My 2018 goal is to focus on more self care... And as cliché as that sounds it's more important to learn how to take care of yourself now, in your 20's than wait until everything is perfect in your 30's to start loving yourself.
I'm only 24 -- happy belated to me! -- and I still haven't grasped the whole concept of learning to love myself. It's hard to chase a dream and do everything possible to achieve it while simultaneously being unhappy.
Being successful and unhappy shouldn't even be an option for you, and it most definitely isn't an option for me.
Ever since I moved to NYC, I've been struggling to find my happy. Part of me regrets moving so far from home. Part of me regrets not moving closer to my friends. And another part of me feels like I said yes to my new job prematurely and moved before I was truly ready.
Well guess the fuck what?! I know I'm young, but I'm pretty sure it doesn't matter how old you get, you'll always have doubts and you'll aways think that you aren't ready. But I believe that the universe places you in situations at the perfect time despite your gripes about it, and you have to learn to accept it.
The only way to accept these changes honestly is through self care.
That means even when you feel down, make sure you eat. Make sure you call your friends and family. When you're desperate to be pampered for a day go get your nails done and your hair done. Treat yourself to a movie and dinner.
I'll say that again... Treat Yo SELF!
Self care means learning to be comfortable doing things alone, but it also means acknowledging when you feel lonely and pushing yourself to try new things. ie. make some new friends, go visit a place you were to chicken to see alone, voice your opinion when you think no one is listening.
Self care means learning to be unapologetically you... And as I figure out what combination of things will make me feel whole again and make a home out of NYC, I hope you join this journey with me.
This is my pledge to always do something for myself everyday, not because I want to, but because I NEED to.
My future self is counting on me to love myself, just as much as yours is begging you to love her too!
